Wednesday, April 2, 2014

I just like to smile, smiling's my favorite!

As some of you know, I work with children (in home childcare).  I hear and see a lot of funny things that make me smile just thinking about them.  I love reading peoples status about kids and some of the things they have said or done, they always make me smile.  Today, while dropping Elijah off at school, a mom was walking her little girl into class and she was holding a baby, who was looking at me over mom's shoulder. I smiled, and the little boy gave me the biggest grin, which made me smile even more.  Went to get my coffee, and I was just smiling.  Everyone that I smiled at, smiled back.  Instant return on your smile.  I probably even over use the smiley emoticon ;-)  I thought about how when you see someone in a car with a goofy grin on their face, and it makes you smile.  I have probably been that person that you chuckle at while you drive by (When "What Does The Fox Say" comes on in my van, we all let loose).  And I really like smiling!  Pass one on today!  

Here are 15 health benefits to smiling!  (via http://www.sunwarrior.com/news/15-health-benefits-of-smiling/)

1 – Lower Heart Rate – Smiling slows the heart and relaxes the body. This lets the heart work without overworking. People who smile and laugh often are less likely to develop heart disease. Smiling reduces blood pressure temporarily too.

2 – Reduce Stress – Stress is a common problem in the modern world that causes a myriad of health problems. Stress relief may be as simple as smiling a little more throughout the day. Smiling releases endorphins that counteract and diminish the stress hormones.

 3 – Better Mood – The endorphins do more than kick stress to the curb. Endorphins lift your mood. Feeling down? Slap a smile on your face, even if it isn’t entirely genuine at first, and turn your entire day around with something simple, easy to do, and free.

4 – Increase Productivity – Smiling has been shown to increase productivity while performing tasks. There’s truth to the “whistle while we work” mentality. This also explains why silly internet memes and pictures of cute animals can actually get people motivated and working harder after a few moments of smiling or laughter.

5 – Encourage Trust – Studies show that we are more trustful of others when they smile and smile genuinely. Trust is an important part of social health when dealing with people, whether they be loved ones or just acquaintances. Seems relationships are truly built on smiles.

6 – Produce Empathy – When we’re embarrassed or caught doing something questionable, often our first response is a smile. This instinct breaks the initial ice of embarrassment, promotes leniency in what others think of us, and engenders a sense of empathy since we’ve all experienced embarrassment and we want to smile along.

7 – Avoid Regret – We smile to avoid feeling bad for not smiling. Sounds weird and circular, but we don’t want to hurt people’s feelings so we smile when someone shares some story about their dog, even if we don’t really care. Studies show that if we don’t smile, we feel regret for failing to do so. This regret brings down our mood and boosts stress hormones.

8 – Kill Pain – Smiling and laughter both have been shown to lessen pain. They release endorphins that lift our moods, but many of these act as natural painkillers too.

9 – Increase Attention – Stress limits our perceptions and narrows our attention. Our body kicks into fight or flight mode where we can focus only on one of those things. Smiling counteracts this and widens our attention again, opening us back up to multitasking and insights that come from the fringes of our perception and our subconscious.

10 – Contagious – Around 50% of people smile back. This spreads the health benefits throughout those around you and it comes back to you several times as well.

11 – Build Attraction – Smiling makes people more attractive. This seems to be especially true for women. Men are more likely to approach a woman who smiles than one who simply makes eye contact while women aren’t necessarily drawn in by a smile alone.

12 – Earn Success – A smile can appear confident, self-assured, and on top of your work. Those who smile are more likely to earn more money through tips and raises. They are more readily approached with business ideas and offered advancements.

13 – Look Younger – Smiles naturally lift the face and in studies have shown to make people look younger, around 3 years younger on average.

14 – Longevity – The effects of a good smile extend past just the exterior good looks. People who smile more often live longer too, around 7 years longer than most according to one study. It releases stress, helps the heart, and much more to keep you healthy longer.

15 – Boost Immune System – Smiles help the body relax and this lets the immune system react more quickly and effectively against invaders.


Tuesday, April 1, 2014

I'm THAT mom...

It hit me today, I'm one of THOSE moms.  And it also hit me that I'm really ok with that.

My 3 boys (I'm counting the husband) are everything to me.  I love them, I even LIKE them.  I love spending time with them.  I have found that I sometimes am a little sad when Winter, Spring, or Summer break is over and they have to go back to school.  

My kids don't take the bus to school, I drive them.  My oldest had some anxiety issues in 4th grade, and the only way I could get him to school was to drive him.  So even after he overcame his anxiety, I still drove them, because it put less stress on both of them, and honestly, not having to get up earlier and stand out in the rain waiting for a bus is ok with me.  I like to sleep, so I will find a way to savor an extra five minutes.  

I used to walk them into class, but since they've gotten older, I walk my youngest, Elijah, into the school and he leaves with his class, while my oldest, Ethan, is fine with me dropping him off at the door.  When Elijah is leaving, he always gives me one last wave before going down the hallway, and we hold up the numbers 1-4-3 (I love you) before I leave, and he usually gives me a couple kisses goodbye.  When I drop Ethan off, I always wait and watch til he is in the building, and he knows that I do.  He doesn't look back and wave like Elijah does, but he knows that I'm there watching and praying over his day.

Why am I writing this?  Too much caffeine?  Not likely.  To exalt myself?  Hardly!  My kids don't have cell phones, cause they are usually with me, or they are somewhere that they can get a hold of me.  I don't let them watch movies that are rated R, and if they are PG-13 (or and 80's PG film), I prefer to watch it first before I subject them to it.  I don't let them have soda very often.  I don't let them play games that are rated M.  I have all their passwords for their emails and facebook account, and the passwords that they have on their tablets.  I monitor the history on their tablets and on our computer.  I limit their game time.  I watch shows that they watch (LOVE Spongebob).  This is just my families convictions.  These are things that we decided for OUR family.  I'm not writing this looking for applause (if you want to, you can), or for critiquing, or to tell everyone they need to follow this same set of rules.  Heck, I didn't even have these same set of rules growing up (sorry for the strong use of "heck", just trying to emphasize a point).  I wanted to write this to say, "This is me".   

I saw a little girl, about 3rd grade, walking to school by herself.  Busy street, raining, and she's walking alone.  I thought about getting on facebook for a "rant", and decided instead of focusing on that, focus on myself.  Ranting doesn't usually do me any good (unless I'm ranting about no coffee in the house, in which case some kind hearted person usually will lend me a cup ;-).  I think that in any area, a lot of times our human nature tends to want to point out external things that we think are wrong, and things that someone ELSE should change and do our perceived way.  Parenting is overwhelming, hard work.  Every time I think I've got this parenting thing down, I find I don't know anything.   We are all doing this with our own personal set of life experiences, with our own convictions, and our own set of values.  I am THAT mom.  You are THAT mom (or dad, grandparent, etc).  I ENCOURAGE you to be THAT.  We are all doing our best, keep pressing on!